Open letter to Areyada Pavin Ponanna
We are extremely happy to know that your organisation ‘Nanga Kodava’ has taken the initiative to protect Kodava tradition and culture. At the same time, it is worrisome news that a few youngsters of ‘Nanga Kodava’ created ruckus at Bangalore Kodava Samaj a few weeks back by objecting to the non-Kodava bridegroom in Kodava attire as part of wedding celebrations. We have no connections to the bride or groom involved in the wedding, but as responsible human beings we feel sad that a few people spoiled the marriage celebrations. Imagine the plight of parents/relatives of the bride and groom?
If you are so concerned about the so called inter-caste weddings, do send a notice to Kodava Samajas so that they don’t provide the hall/space to conduct the weddings. Why go and create problems for the bride and groom’s families at the venues? We are sure if people are informed that inter-caste weddings are not possible in Kodava Samajas, they will look for alternative arrangements in hotels/halls. It is not like they have no options left.
In this era of globalization, inter-caste and inter-faith wedding are nothing out of the world phenomenon. It is up to the two matured adults to realize what is right and what is wrong for them. We are sure no educated man or woman would want an adhoc group to give sermons about culture and tradition in a demeaning way.
‘Nanga Kodava’ is bothered about Kodava culture and tradition, but what about certain resorts in Kodagu using kupyachaley-clad Kodavas to dance and entertain the tourists. Isn’t it hurting the sentiments? Or are they exempt from this ‘law’?
Also, there are enough of more Kodavas and Kodavathees who are qualified but finding it difficult to find Kodava partners for themselves. Why not start a forum which will help these types in matchmaking? There are enough and more reasons to pitch in and show concern, if you really want to make a difference.
We want to ask ‘Nanga Kodava’ volunteers why they didn’t question the non-Kodava bride who married a Kodava businessman in Bangalore last week. The groom’s father owns a newspaper in Mysore. The bride was clad in a sari draped in Kodava style. Do we assume that ‘Nanga Kodava’ has no guts to touch the rich and powerful?
All we want ‘Nanga Kodava’ to do is to preach about culture and tradition to the youth in a responsible way. If possible try to do something good for the community so that people appreciate your efforts and you can have an influence in community matters.
If you try to do a Taliban in Kodagu/Bangalore, then god save you guys.